Just got back from the Poison concert! Great show…
Tracey had gotten passes to go backstage (yes I’m EXTREMELY jealous) with a friend of hers, and of course, she couldn’t get me a pass, so my only option was to go and hang out alone the whole show while she was backstage….
Fortunately for me, my boss at Island 94.3, one of the radio stations I work for was able to hook me up. I got 2 passes and went with my friend Matt…….
The show was great, but I can’t help feel a sense of disappointment, not with Poison, but with Tracey.
I don’t know if I am just jealous of Tracey for going backstage, something I’ve wanted to do my whole life, or if I feel neglected by going to the concert, with her spending most of the time backstage (which I shouldn’t feel cuz I only went cuz she was and I knew then that she was going to be backstage with her friend)…. I know I feel a bit left out because after talking to her on the phone now, she told me that her and her friend were going to go see the show in NJ next weekend without even a mention of inviting me….. I always of saw the 80’s rock bands as something we had in common, granted, something she was way more into that me, but something we could share but I kind of feel more like I’m sticking myself in her business or just trying to associate myself with something she likes and wants to do on her own, when I just want to be able to share this experience with someone I love.
The reason I haven’t gone to many concerts is because I didn’t have someone like this or even a group of people like this anymore. I always love going to clubs/concerts but when the people that were closest to me stopped going, so did I. I always went when I had a girlfriend or a close group of friends who were into it but rarely enjoy these things alone. Maybe because I’m shy socally and find it difficult to speak with or get along with general fans of the venue I’m attending…..
I guess I kind of feel cheated that I don’t have someone to share most of the things I love most with.
Just my thoughts tonight….
=( sorry you are down jaypoc…
Thanks…. I think I just needed to vent a bit and sit down and talk with Tracey… I did upset her by bringing it up, but I feel better that I talked to her, and I did clear up some issues (which turned out to be non-issues) with her, so I’m glad we talked.
Let me ask you (and other LJ readers) this, In general, should a guy bring up the and negatives he sees in a relationship even if it may hurt the girl, or should he just keep his mouth shut, even though talking may actually releave his own feelings.
I’d like to hear what other women feel on this. Did I do the right thing talking to Tracey or should I have avoided it cuz it upset her?
Hi there…sorry to intrude…but I’ve been a reader of your LJ for a while. I couldn’t help but comment on your question. Personally, I prefer him to bring things up that maybe bothering him…whether it will hurt my feelings or not. I was in a relationship with a guy who would never talk to me about things that were bothering him. The first time he tried to break up with me, it was out of the blue…and very surprising. I had no clue that he was unhappy. He then brought up all these issues he had, and I was just stunned that he hadn’t spoke to me about all this.
We ended up back together, but even as time went along, he still persisted in not speaking to me about things. I could tell stuff was bothering him, but he would never talk to me about it, even when I tried to get him to. It was really more hurtful then the end result. Also what was very hurtful is he would hurt me purposely. By saying things, or whatever…nothing abusive, but just little things he knew would hurt my feelings. He was getting really bad near the end. He was trying to eventually get ME to do the breaking up, but he also knew I wouldn’t due to how I felt about him….well…this is getting long winded enough, but it didn’t end well.
Sorry to just babble on like that. 🙂 I guess I would’ve accomplished it a lot better if I just said, “Yes, I think communication is good….no matter if it’s the good or negative you’re wanting to discuss.”. 😉
i think you should ALWAYS talk about something that hurts or upsets you. not saying anything builds walls of resentment.
Hey, Well as a frequent reader, I’m glad to hear your input. I’m also happy to see that most of you seem to feel I did the right thing to talk to her. Thanks to you all….